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Tolerating in the Work Place – Learning to Hate Professionally

Opinion by Jas Bains

You’d be lying if you said you’ve never hated someone you were forced to work with. We’ve all had to deal with it at some point. The mere mention of their name makes you roll your eyes in disapproval. Whether it’s justified or not, you just don’t like them.

Have you tried to like someone you don’t like? I have. I don’t like them. But the world isn’t your friend and you can’t pretend like everyone likes you. Even if you share Facebook posts about someone’s missing pigeon, nobody’s going to like you more for it. Which is fine, because if people dislike you, it’s fine to dislike people. As long as you’re not one of those people who doesn’t indicate while changing lanes on the motorway. Then you have no right to dislike anyone but everyone has the right to dislike you.

Let’s narrow it down. You’re either studying or working and you probably work with people. These people share the same workspace as you, or maybe they’re just classmates that you’ve been forced to work with. You’ve been given the old ‘you can’t choose your group in the real world so this will prepare you for the workplace’. That’s utter nonsense. If you don’t like someone you work with, you should be allowed to cook someone’s phone in the microwave. That’s the ‘real world’, because there’s nothing really stopping you from doing that. Apart from common sense but really nobody listens to that anyway. So why shouldn’t you microwave someone’s phone? Disliking someone just isn’t a good enough reason I’m afraid to say. For example, just because someone chews loudly, that doesn’t make them a bad person.

Let’s face it, you aren’t perfect. What’s your flaw? Mine is oversharing. I overshare a lot. I used to lick Shake n’ Vac off the carpets when I was a small child. I was Henry the Hoover if his dad was Charlie Sheen. But that probably doesn’t make people hate me. Certainly makes people avoid vacuuming around me but not hate me. What makes people hate me is my judgmental attitude. The same one we all use when we’ve already decided how we feel about someone before we’ve even spoken to them. I once called someone’s robot thing ugly because I didn’t like the arrogant way he used to carry himself. That wasn’t very nice of me. The guy only asked to see my robot at the time and I already judged him for it. If you’re reading this, I’m sorry I called your robot ugly… or whatever colourful word I used at the time.

I’m probably going to sound like a massive hypocrite here but I don’t particularly like someone in my class. This person is arrogant and I don’t think he’s ever thanked anyone in his life. I remember I handed him a sheet of paper once because he was late to a lab session. He looked at my eyes as I gazed in to his. A smile adorned his face as he thanked me and blessed my greatest grandchildren. All of what I just wrote was a lie. He didn’t even give me the time of day. This is why I hate him. But maybe the fault isn’t with him, more that I’ve come to expect better from people. This should include myself really. Unlike those social media influencers who share a sandwich with the homeless and expect a Victoria’s Cross to be awarded to them.

You can hate, dislike or generally avoid anyone you like. Just don’t microwave someone’s phone. Do better. Be better.

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